I have dealt with this constantly, you guys basically are the same like anyone else. Where you do not want to look like that wrong guy, be that wrong guy, have the features like that wrong guy, well at least I am not like that wrong guy, and this wrong guy doing wrong things. At least I am the mature one in the room compared to all the other morons doing terrible things.
In terms of it being a state, I just want you to realize that even though in New Jersey you have all of these people that are angry at you nonstop and constantly want to kick you out or throw you out of the room or anything else.
There just is nothing more stressful to handle than to constantly have it just be: You are wrong and I am right.
I understand all these athletes and all these sports people and no one has been in your shows or show any real empathy or sympathy. No one has been through the same guilt as I have. To me I am going to be honest, it just is annoying to have to be perfectly right all the time and not accept things the way they are.
If you are dealing with tattooed drifters and hoodlums, just cope with it, because in reality they probably feel the same way you do and are dealing with much worse. Yeah okay, it does not sound all that intelligent on paper or in reality because of experience, but it does really bug me if in any situation where I make a mistake there is always a Mr. or Miss Right that always have a great argument against my cause, it gets out of hand it esculates further, person feels degraded.
The times I learned from being Mr. Right, was that I always kind of sounded like a complete holier than thou arrogant asshole. If I work with one of you guys one day and if I slipped the tongue or had my foot in my mouth for saying things, it could be nice and kind to point it out or scoff at me, but either way, having to try to be the right person and feel people should be on track or that I should only hang out with those on track, taught me how really dumb it would have been had I been the one showing how righteous I am, rather than trying to learn from my own mistakes and take care of my personal problems than infecting other people's problems and making their problems worse.
People have their own way of fixing things, they have their own way of taking things seriously or taking things nonchalantly or perhaps taking things as humorous.
What could feel great for you, may not feel great to the other person for many reasons.
What I can learn from what I wrote, is please do not make an ass out of yourself by being the smartest righteous person in the room looking at everyone else as morons. They are probably helping you get your life together and you probably do not see the little things that are being prevented that would have a dire major effect on you.